OK, I’m about to offend some people. Are you ready? OK.
I was homeschooled growing up, and one of the books on my required reading list was How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. My dad told my sister, brother, and I that if we would study that book and apply it, we would be successful in whatever job or business we decided to pursue.
As I read it, the biggest thing that I learned was this – Everyone loves to hear their own name. After all, isn’t Cameron Mark Denny the prettiest name you ever saw? It’s just perfect. Well, except for the fact that Cameron means “crooked nose.” But I guess if Mr. Cameron way back in the day got his crooked nose for some heroic deed, I can live with that.
But I digress.
Everyone loves to hear their own name.
In high school, I worked at a retirement community. I challenged myself to learn every person’s name that lived there. By the time I left for college three years later, I could walk down the halls addressing almost every person who lived in the complex, “Hello Mr. Gardener. Good morning Mrs. Jones.”
It was really cool. I hope they enjoyed it.
But it was hard. Really hard. I’d be walking and see someone coming towards me. My mind raced, thinking madly, “What is their name? Smith? No. Edwards? No.” If I didn’t remember it by the time I passed them, I felt a bit defeated. Later I would say, “Oh man, it was Mrs. Cox! Why didn’t I remember that?” Then I would try little tricks to help me remember it next time.
Little did I know that I would finish college and enter into retail sales and marketing, where I’d deal with many different customers all the time. The name learning would only continue to challenge me.
Now here’s where the offensive part comes in. I hear people all the time say, “I’m not good with names. I remember faces but not names.”
Whoop-de-freakin-doo!
It doesn’t make someone feel special if I say, “I remember your face. What’s your name again?” That’s called failure.
And don’t blame it on genetics or temperament or your shoe size or anything else. If you are older than 83, then I’ll believe you. Otherwise, I think you’re either ignorant and don’t see the importance, or you’re just lazy.
Ignorance is OK. Until now. Consider yourself no-longer-ignorant. Think about times when people remembered your name. Did it make you feel special? Did it make you want to buy their product, be their friend, or go out with them on a date? What about when someone didn’t remember your name when they should have. Did it make you want to buy, friend, or date?
I rest my case.
Now if you’re just lazy, enjoy being friendless, homeless, and single. It’s OK. That’s what you’ve chosen…
Whew! OK. I’m done ranting. My hair is presentable again, and my fingers are no longer smoking from typing so violently. I twisted my ankle jumping down from my soapbox, but it will be OK.
Oh, and one more thing. Learn to pronounce someone’s name correctly. If it looks or sounds hard, ask them how to say it and practice it with them right then. It sounds stupid, but they will feel honored that you took the time to do it.
There’s a cool site called pronouncenames.com. If you are trying to figure out a tough name, check it out. If you have a tough name, go there are tell the site how to pronounce it so I can learn it if I ever need to talk to you. Thanks.
Do you think names are important? If so, what reasons can you add to my short list? If not, why?